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It’s not always easy to relax into love within the ups and downs of relationships.
It’s completely expected that relationships, whether between family members, friends, spouses or lovers, will have moments when they seem to embody the height of mutual affection, respect and generosity. And then in most relationships there also are moments of frustration and annoyance. For relationships to grow and to last beyond moderate (though distressing) ups and downs each person must maintain empathy for the feelings of the other and remain aware of their own contribution to the development of problems as well as their more immediate impact on their friend/spouse/lover. Most of the time we manage to at least “muddle through” the difficult times, maintain moderation, and keep our dear ones sufficiently close to eventually enjoy the next peak in the relationship.
Sometimes however things become more volatile. The peaks are exceptionally high, overflowing with unmanageable intensity, while the valleys – moments of “pique” – are can be times of deep conflict and harsh recrimination punctuated by angry outbursts and/or sulking silence. This “peak to pique” experience can be exhausting and even scary in its unpredictability of onset and outcome. It becomes increasingly difficult to maintain individual dignity and a sense of self-worth in these kinds of relationships. More often than not, without supportive assistance in confronting the turmoil and changing the emotional terrain, these volatile relationships fly apart, leaving both partners confused and hurt and often angry.