Tools for Intentional Living – Dr. J. Nickens

Poor me.

                   POUR ME!

Alcohol addiction, if you are struggling for sobriety,  is a formidable adversary.  Something that will make your battle more difficult is to have an attitude of entitlement.  Yes, you may have experienced some serious losses due to your drinking, and you deserve empathy and warm wishes as you confront your painful and even damaging behavior.  It is not helpful to your recovery however, or to your rebuilding of relationships, if you keep the perspective of having been “deprived” of your rightful privileges and possessions.  In fact, if you have lost people dear to you and possessions you worked hard for, it may be more helpful to accept that you traded them away in return for “that feeling.”  The loss of meaning and positive self-regard, through neglect, distraction and deceit is painful to accept.  Only through acceptance of our own frailty can we hope to re-build a whole and wholesome self.  All else is simply a flight into health; and short-lived at that.

Recovery can be an arduous process if properly done.  Try not to run before you can walk.

If you want to fly, take the time to grow wings.

Yes.  You can.