Tools for Intentional Living – Dr. J. Nickens

On Valentine’s Day we all tend to focus on the love of another, perhaps someone near, perhaps someone far away, perhaps someone who exists only in our dreams.  What is too often overlooked is the importance of loving oneself.

Self love, along with self-appreciation and self-respect, can be illusive when we are conditioned to believe that such feelings are wrong.  The descriptions I’ve heard from clients in my office range from the official-sounding “narcissist” to the more colorful “full of herself.”   

 What I too seldom hear is the inclination toward love of self, expressed in a  wholesome and self-aware way that is at once modest and exhuberant! 

 So on this Valentine’s Day, take a moment to embrace your own spirit and recognize your unique attributes, as you smile upon the smile of someone you help to feel loved.

And if you’re having trouble finding genuine love for yourself, consider contacting a professional therapist to help you illuminate the love within, and to connect you to the love-of-self you deserve.