Tools for Intentional Living – Dr. J. Nickens

Are you making resolutions for the New Year?

Will you be changing things all on your own? 

Then perhaps you believe you should “Just pull yourself up by your bootstraps!”

This advice is so much a part of American culture that to some extent we all believe we could and should “Just Do It” in nearly all circumstances.  Clients often begin therapy by expressing the feelings of failure that arise because they have decided to seek professional help.  The proliferation of Self-Help books (in themselves a contradiction of the principle) is a clear sign that asking for help from others is often seen as unnecessary, or even undesirable.  Yes, some self-help books are, well, helpful.  But too often these books convince people to go it alone when that is not a good idea.

If you are struggling with difficult feelings and unwelcome thoughts, and you’ve tried to “snap out of it” or to “just get over it”, and you’re finding it more challenging than you imagined, perhaps it’s time to consider contacting a psychotherapist.  Having a helpful therapeutic connection with someone who is interested in – but not involved in your situation may help provide the illumination you need to discover a new path.   Asking for help, though much maligned, is really the basis for strength in the real world 

Remember, even the Lone Ranger relied on Tonto when he found himself in a tough spot!

           Consider letting a qualified therapist help you to put your boots on… 

                                                                         Happy New Year