Tools for Intentional Living – Dr. J. Nickens

How do you learn about another person when first you meet them?  I have seen many talented and engaging clients who are trying to meet partners for fun and romance.  Often they have trouble figuring out how to know if a date is right for them.   So here are a few conversational questions - not guaranteed to find the person of your dreams, but perhaps helpful in finding our who you’re having dinner with!

• What was the last thing you did “for the first time?”
• What was the last thing you did that you’ll never do again?
• If a good friend wanted to be critical of you, what could they say that would be at least somewhat true?
• If we went on an ideal date what kind of shoes would you  be wearing?
• What is something that only people who have spent a lot of time around you know about you?
• If you were a body of water, would you be an ocean, a river or a lake?  And why?
• What is something you’re proud of that almost nobody knows about?
• What is something you know that I don’t know about you?
• If you could be a different kind of creature, real or imagined, what would it be?  And why?
• What are some of your favorite quotes?

These are questions meant to reveal a person’s thoughts and inner reflections.  They can also be used in job interviews when you want different kinds of information about prospective employees.  “Thank you” to the clients who contributed questions, and to Henning and Showkeir Associates (www.henning-showkeir.com) for their suggestions.

If you have any good “illuminating” questions, I’d appreciate hearing them so i can pass them on to others.